Sue Lick, who recently published a book called “Childless by Marriage” graciously shared our site on her blog.
She also expressed her discomfort with the term “mother” as we are using it in our name: “Childless Mothers”…
She opened it up for discussion and began an interesting dialogue…
Here’s my 2 cents:
From the perspective of my heart, using the term “Childless Mothers” is not meant to impose Motherhood in the traditional sense on anyone, but rather to acknowledge part of the human experience … which can, at any time, embody the archetypal spirt of a “mother”. We call it “Mother Nature” because it is universal. From my point of view, there lies the POTENTIAL of mothering energy in all of us through the birthing and nurturing of ideas, the generosity of spirit, and sharing unconditional love for ourselves and those around us. Some women may choose to tap into this innate capacity and others may not.
So we are using it here not literally but figuratively of course…articulating it as a “verb” vs. a “noun”…as something that is not limited to biology, or even gender but is more about a consciousness to recognize as sacred and worthy of celebration.
I have found on this journey that the word “childless” and “mother” in this context congers much debate. I think it reflects a highly charge experience for so many of us and that is why it’s so wonderful to have these discussions with one another. That is also why I am currently also writing a book and would love to interview anyone else reading this blog who would like to share their experience of not have children. Your identity will be kept confidential. If you are interested in participating please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Here is the link to Sue’s conversation of the term “childless mother” on her blog: http://childlessbymarriage.blogspot.com/2012/05/are-we-childless-mothers.html
Please join in by posting your comments here. Curious minds want to know … how does the term “Childless MOTHER” impact and feel to you?
May the sharings continue!