The reason why I asked this is to begin sharing how it really feels. Because, I have found that there is little conversation about his. Some who do not want kids may feel guilty sharing that. Others that do may be suffering in silence. What is your experience?
May 5, 2012
cabrinih
New member – great idea.
I’m heart-broken @ not having children. Medically unable. Years of tears, IVF, losses. @ 50 radical hysterectomy. Now @ 57, older nieces/nephews are young adults not interested in hanging with aunt/uncle; 9 yo nephew branching into greater independence & my last 4yo niece not going to have same opportunities with me as I no longer can drive due to my blindness. Sure, we’ll have our quality times but they’ll be limited.
I wonder what will happen when my husband & I will require more help.
May 12, 2012
Teresa Svoboda
Honestly, its unbearable! I want a child so bad, I feel like I have an empty pit in my soul and at times my arms ache and burn because they feel so completely empty without a child to hold. My sorrow is tangeable. I know women who have put all this behind them, but I don’t see how I will ever be one of them. Each time I am near someone with a baby or small child it hits me right in the gut and I feel like I can’t breathe. Then there are times when I hear about people mistreating infants, throwing them in the garbage or leaving them in hot cars to die because they “forgot” their baby was with them in the car and I get so angry at God! I can’t believe that he would choose those individuals to be parents over me. I would never do such a horendous thing! Wow… I can’t do this.. it too much.
Teresa…many in this community SO understand what you are experiencing. I wonder how we can be of support to you at this time. Perhaps more info. may be helpful if you so choose: ie: your age, single or coupled, your feeling about your life outside of this particular topic? If I for one, know more about you, perhaps I can share more.
As for all the children mistreated and abandoned, that is the underlying inspiration for our non-profit arm… CMoMA.org … offering support to childless women and couples to adopt children in need. There are over 15 million orphans in the world who are already here and need safe and loving homes. Re-directing my former grief over not being able to have my own biological child into this larger vision is what has healed my heart and transformed the void into a larger calling.
We all have this possibility before us and ability within us. You do too. Perhaps this community can offer a safe haven for you to share and to offer the faith that you will get to the other side of your grief. We all support you in this journey.
Dr. Marcy
The reason why I asked this is to begin sharing how it really feels. Because, I have found that there is little conversation about his. Some who do not want kids may feel guilty sharing that. Others that do may be suffering in silence. What is your experience?
cabrinih
New member – great idea.
I’m heart-broken @ not having children. Medically unable. Years of tears, IVF, losses. @ 50 radical hysterectomy. Now @ 57, older nieces/nephews are young adults not interested in hanging with aunt/uncle; 9 yo nephew branching into greater independence & my last 4yo niece not going to have same opportunities with me as I no longer can drive due to my blindness. Sure, we’ll have our quality times but they’ll be limited.
I wonder what will happen when my husband & I will require more help.
Teresa Svoboda
Honestly, its unbearable! I want a child so bad, I feel like I have an empty pit in my soul and at times my arms ache and burn because they feel so completely empty without a child to hold. My sorrow is tangeable. I know women who have put all this behind them, but I don’t see how I will ever be one of them. Each time I am near someone with a baby or small child it hits me right in the gut and I feel like I can’t breathe. Then there are times when I hear about people mistreating infants, throwing them in the garbage or leaving them in hot cars to die because they “forgot” their baby was with them in the car and I get so angry at God! I can’t believe that he would choose those individuals to be parents over me. I would never do such a horendous thing! Wow… I can’t do this.. it too much.
Dr. Marcy
Teresa…many in this community SO understand what you are experiencing. I wonder how we can be of support to you at this time. Perhaps more info. may be helpful if you so choose: ie: your age, single or coupled, your feeling about your life outside of this particular topic? If I for one, know more about you, perhaps I can share more.
As for all the children mistreated and abandoned, that is the underlying inspiration for our non-profit arm… CMoMA.org … offering support to childless women and couples to adopt children in need. There are over 15 million orphans in the world who are already here and need safe and loving homes. Re-directing my former grief over not being able to have my own biological child into this larger vision is what has healed my heart and transformed the void into a larger calling.
We all have this possibility before us and ability within us. You do too. Perhaps this community can offer a safe haven for you to share and to offer the faith that you will get to the other side of your grief. We all support you in this journey.