No one every gets married and expects or wants to get divorced. Sometimes we choose it and sometimes it chooses us. Either way, it usually feels like a bummer we wish we did not have to go through. I am one of the 50% of the women who did not remain married to the first person I walked the aisle with. I married at 28 out of a blueprint of what was expected and what I thought was expected of me. I was “other” directed versus “self-directed”, confusing “attached” love with romantic love.
A few years after my divorce, I remember being in a store and seeing a book staring at me on the shelf. I gasped…out loud…and clapped loud too! Finally….someone was wise and brave enough to help provide support once the unthinkable or undesirable happens.
Here is is…if I was teaching a class on divorce I would have this as the first read on the syllabus.